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If getting married abroad appeals to you, here’s our ultimate guide to destination weddings – from costs to how to transport your dress!

If you dream about saying ‘I do’ on a white sand beach, in your favourite foreign city or somewhere totally tropical, then getting married abroad could be right for you.

Destination weddings are increasing in popularity, but the logistics can be pretty tricky – not least how do you get your wedding dress there in one piece! Here’s the essentials you need to know about getting married abroad.

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How Much Do Weddings Abroad Cost?

According to travel specialists Kuoni, the average spend on a destination wedding is now £7,500. Compare this to the £32,273 price tag for the average UK wedding and getting married abroad can work out much cheaper.

The average number of guests to a destination wedding is between 10 and 15 so that cost could skyrocket depending on how many people you want to bring, and be much lower if your party size is smaller.

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Getting married abroad on an even smaller budget is possible if you are smart with your destination. Choose a place with lots of all-inclusive resorts like the Dominican Republic or Mexico where hotels are fighting over each other to offer affordable package deals.

You can also choose a less well-known city in a popular country. In Italy, you could avoid the tourist price tag in cities like Venice, Florence and around Lake Como and opt for enchanting smaller towns in Tuscany like Pitigliano or Montemerano which are equally as beautiful but have much less demand.

Or you can choose to get married in Dalyan, which is a town on the Dalyan River, just inland from Turkey’s southwest coast. Across the river from town is the ancient ruined city of Kaunos, with Lycian rock tombs and the remains of a theater. Riverboats connect Dalyan with İztuzu Beach to the south, home to protected loggerhead turtle nesting grounds. To the northwest on the shore of Lake Köyceğiz is the village of Sultaniye, known for its thermal mud baths. If you would like to have more information about getting married in this beautiful romantic town, please contact us.

Costs you’ll always need to budget for on top of the ceremony and reception costs include legal fees, translation costs, accommodation costs for the minimum residency period (see below) and wedding insurance.

How Do I Choose My Destination Wedding Location?

A wedding destination should suit your personalities. Write a list of your key requirements (countryside, views, beach, etc) to build a picture of your ideal location and then narrow down the destinations by your budget and the budget of your guests (a key consideration!).

Once you’ve shortlisted a country, you can narrow down venues by your needs. Find out if guest rooms must be booked for a minimum number of nights and check there are no curfews on when and where the party is allowed to continue. Some venues have preferred suppliers, so make sure you are happy with those.

Do I Need To Use A Wedding Planner?

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It’s quite possible to organize a wedding abroad yourself, but you may find it much easier and more relaxing through a travel company or specialised destination wedding planner. They have years of experience and you can hire them just to do a venue search for a relatively small fee which will save you considerable amounts of time.

You’ll normally get a wedding team in the UK who’ll sort out all the details, help you get the right documentation and answer all your questions before you go, plus a local co-ordinator on the ground when you arrive.

If you don’t use a wedding planner, you’ll need to ensure you have all the right legal documentation in order for your wedding to be legal.

How Far In Advance Do I Need To Book When Getting Married Abroad?

Most couples book their wedding one year in advance, say Kuoni.

Don’t expect to just turn up and tie the knot — paperwork can take months to complete.

“A symbolic ceremony can be held pretty much anywhere, but if you want a legal ceremony abroad, the red tape differs from country to country,” says Geraldine Sweetland, director of weddings at European wedding planners Love and Lord.

How Many Times Should We Visit The Location Before The Wedding?

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You should visit at least twice: first to choose a venue and again once your plans are in place. Ideally, you should taste the menu, meet suppliers and have a hair and make-up trial.

READ MORE: 47 of the Best Beach Weddings Spots in the World

To organize the wedding yourself without visiting the venue is a huge leap of faith and could make you even more stressed or nervous.

What Are The Legal Requirements For Getting Married Abroad?

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Paperwork is the last thing you want to be doing during wedding planning, but you’ll be devastated if there’s one missing document that means you can’t get a marriage licence. You can use the British Government’s online tool to find out exactly what paperwork is required in each country or on the embassy’s website.

Here are the details if you consider getting married in dalyan, Turkey.

Essential Documents

The full legal requirements vary by country, but every destination will need the bride and groom to have these documents in their original form (not photocopied) or a certified copy.

• Valid 10-year passport with at least six months remaining on it
• Full birth certificates
• Deed poll proof of any name change
• Decree absolute, if married
• Marriage and death certificates of deceased spouse, if widowed
• Adoption certificate, if adopted

If you’re marrying in a non-English speaking country your paperwork may have to be translated and given an apostille (additional certification of authenticity) to validate the document abroad. This can be done by the Foreign Office in the UK.

Other Common Documents

• Certificate of No Impediment (CNI) – Each party will need one to prove there’s no reason they cannot marry and they can be obtained from a local registry office or your embassy. They can take around a month to issue and last for six months from the date of issue. These are required in Cyprus, Greece and Italy, for example.
• Single Status Statutory Declaration – Similar to the certificate, this is for people who’ve never been married to prove they are free to marry. They need to be stamped and certified by a solicitor in the UK. Countries requiring this include Seychelles, Kenya and the Bahamas.
• Medical test – This is not always required but you need a medical/blood test to marry in the United States, Mexico and Turkey, for example.

Remember to factor the cost of obtaining these into your wedding budget. If you are using a wedding planner, then the cost of these should be included in their quote – watch out if you start getting lots of hidden costs.

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Residency Requirements

Many countries have a minimum residency period before you can obtain a marriage licence there. For example, in parts of Italy it varies between four and seven days, but in France, at least one of the parties will need to prove they’ve lived in the country for a minimum of 30 days prior to the application for a marriage licence.

Start your research early if you want a legal marriage in a different country. In Spain, you can only marry if you’ve been a resident for the last two years, or, if you live in the UK, for either party to be a Spanish national. Unless you want to move to Spain for two years, a British couple living in the UK can’t have a legal wedding in Spain.

Special Requirements

Many countries have specific other requirements to obtain a marriage licence that you must be aware of.

You need a blood test at a Mexican hospital and a minimum of four witnesses to marry in Mexico for example, whereas just two witnesses and valid return tickets are needed in Barbados. In Antigua, weddings must take place between 8am-6pm, while in Kenya written parental consent is needed for anyone under 21 to marry. Again, you can find these requirements on the British Government website.

Will My Marriage Be Legal in the UK if I Get Married Abroad?

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This is important to check as the vast majority of weddings or civil partnerships that take place abroad are valid in the UK but some may not be. If you have followed all legal requirements for the country you are marrying in, your marriage should be valid in the UK and does not need to be registered. Check will the local authority in the country you’re marrying that all bases have been covered before you leave.

However, if for some reason it does not meet the criteria e.g. it was performed by someone without the right accreditation or the right documentation was not signed, then it will be invalid. Mick Jagger and Jerry Hall found out the hard way that their Hindu wedding ceremony in Bali wasn’t recognised under Indonesian or English law when they divorced due to incomplete legal documents.

You must also be of the legal minimum age to marry in the UK (16 in Scotland and with parental consent in the rest of the UK, 18 without) even if that’s higher than the country you marry in.

Having a foreign wedding certificate is not a problem in a court of law if these criteria are met. However, if there is some doubt on the validity of your marriage, it can have a serious impact on divorces, tax, wills, inheritance etc, so make sure you’re certain every box is ticked.

If you have any worries, you can always complete the legal part of your wedding in the UK and hold a blessing ceremony abroad.

Can I Have an LGBT Wedding Abroad?

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There are many amazing options when you’re getting married abroad as a same-sex couple, however, you will need to bear in mind there are countries where gay marriage and civil partnerships are not recognised, including European countries like Russia, Turkey and Poland and almost all Asian countries.

You may be surprised to find that same-sex marriage is unlawful in countries like Italy, Greece, Northern Ireland and Croatia, although civil partnerships are allowed.

Don’t be disheartened as there are still lots of amazing destinations to choose from, like America, South Africa, Australia and New Zealand, Portugal, Spain, Malta and all Scandinavian countries.

You can use the British Government tool to see if same-sex marriage is possible in your chosen country and if your marriage will be valid in the UK. Remember the same rules apply with making sure you have all the documentation and you check residency rules.

If you have your heart set on a country where same-sex marriage and/or civil partnerships aren’t allowed, then you can still hold a symbolic blessing ceremony.

Do I Need Insurance for My Wedding Abroad?

Absolutely! “Wedding insurance is imperative. No discussion,” says Geraldine, “Do get comprehensive travel insurance too.”

A standard policy won’t be enough to cover you for the sheer cost of a wedding abroad and the potential problems that can arise. Specialist overseas wedding insurance policies will cover standard things like venue cancellations or a supplier failing to turn up but also public liability, loss or damage to your outfit, rings and gifts, and cancellation if a member of the wedding party falls ill (you’re on holiday; food poisoning sometimes happens!).

As with normal travel insurance, natural disaster cover is unlikely to be included. If you’re booking a cheaper wedding during hurricane season in the Caribbean, bear this in mind if you suddenly need to cancel.

Remember, this wedding insurance won’t cover your honeymoon so you’ll need a separate travel insurance policy for that. Make sure you budget for both.

How Will I Transport My Wedding Dress?

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“Speak to the airline in advance,”says Geraldine. “It may be possible to take your dress as hand luggage and you can buy hand luggage-sized boxes for this purpose. Some airlines will let you hang the dress if you carry it in a folding dress cover.

“Discuss this with your dress designer too, as packing or folding may crease the dress depending on the size and fabric.”

Traditional white wedding dresses might not be practical overseas anyway. Consider choosing a lighter, more beach-friendly wedding dress. Often these can be transported in your normal luggage and then ironed out on arrival.

For grooms, a morning suit in the hot sun is a recipe for passing out. Hire a lightweight suit instead and enquire about hanging it up.

How Do I Choose My Suppliers When Marrying Abroad?

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Word of mouth is best; ask staff at the venue for recommendations or, if you’re using a wedding planner, ask for testimonials and photos from other brides who’ve used those suppliers.

Things like a menu tasting and hair and make-up trial are ideal but may not be possible. Make sure you’re in regular contact with suppliers so there’s no surprises when you arrive. In case of language limitations, take along pictures of your ideal look — or enlist a local translator.

Each wedding is unique and personal with design, decor, and details. The beautiful thing about these elements of design is that you can tell the story of your relationship with them. Sure, every wedding reception table has centerpieces and table numbers, every bride has a bouquet, and every reception has a cake. But when all of those elements have a particular style, theme, and design? Well THAT is what makes a cohesive wedding design, and as a result, an awesome wedding!

1. INSPIRATION & VISION. 

You probably have this down-pat, but starting off with inspiration is the key way to start the design of your wedding. Spend some time on Pinterest and blogs and save the things that you like. You don’t have to have anything in particular in mind at this point, just gather inspiration. Save what you like and what resonates with you- even if it’s not wedding related! It’s also important to stop, close your eyes, and think of the “vision” that you have for your wedding day. There could be something that you have in mind, and you don’t even realize it yet.  

Another thing that I would recommend is to think about and write down things that would tell the story of your relationship. Do you love cooking together? Did you meet at a brewery? Do you both love video games? Even if you think that it couldn’t be translated into your wedding design, don’t hold back! Tell your story- you never know what could end up creating a fabulous wedding design. Plus, if you’re working with a wedding designer, they can create something amazing out of something you might think is crazy!

*Note: Please remember- designing your wedding is about inspiration, not replication! Being inspired by something doesn’t mean that you have to replicate it for your own wedding. It’s okay to think something is awesome, but not include it in your own wedding design. 

2. CURATE AND FOCUS.

After you have LOTS of inspiration, it’s time to curate and focus! Go through everything that you’ve saved/pinned, and pick out what REALLY speaks to you. This means either delete images/pins, or save them to another board. I would actually recommend saving to another board so you can at least keep track of what you like initially. And don’t forget to keep in mind what your own personal style is too. It’s also okay to not actually have photos of what is inspiring to you- if you just have a general idea, that’s perfect! Once you’ve whittled down your inspiration, you should see a trend appearing. It could be colors, a general style, or even be a *thing*- like airplanes or food or a graphic pattern!

3. DEFINE AND DESCRIBE. 

This is when it’s time to define and describe your wedding design. I highly recommend giving your wedding a “title” that describes it’s design. This will help you when working with with your vendors, and also help you to keep things focused.Something like “Modern rustic pink and white wedding” or “Romantic and colorful Kate Spade inspired” is perfect. And of course feel free to get creative with the definition/description of your wedding- think outside of the box!

4. DECIDE, DESIGNATE AND DESIGN.

This is hands down my favorite part of designing a wedding. You have your inspiration that you’ve curated, and you have defined the style and theme of your wedding. Now it’s time to decide on and designate the specific design elements for each item of your wedding.

What do you want your reception to look like? Will the centerpieces be tall, short, or perhaps both? What about the ceremony- is it going to be in a church or outdoors? Here are the things that you should be designating:

– Paper elements (Save The Dates, Invitations, Menus, Signs, etc)

– Attendant florals

– Ceremony design/decor/details

– Cocktail hour elements

– Escort card/seating display

– Linens

– Reception florals

– Table numbers

– Cake & cake table

– Sweetheart/Head Table

– Dance floor

– Rentals

– Food

– Entertainment

Once you know these elements, you will have your wedding design! If you’re working with a wedding designer, he or she will likely provide you with a description of these elements. Some designers also sketch out certain elements too- which is AMAZING and definitely helps with visualization!

5. EXECUTE!

Of course you still have to execute your wedding design- this is what makes all of your planning and designing come to life! The key to executing your wedding successfully is to work with a great team of professionals who can make your wedding design a reality. I of course highly recommend working with a planner and/or designer, as they will most definitely ensure that you have a great team to make everything happen.

Remember to keep things organized. Make lists, label things, and keep your details together. There’s nothing worse than handing over your design and detail elements to someone, but yet they have no instructions on what is what, and what goes where. Be sure to communicate the design elements of your wedding to whoever is helping you to execute your wedding design.

“Curate your ideas….pick one concept and stick with it. Just because you love a lot of ideas doesn’t mean they all go together.” – Tracie Domino Events

“Make it cohesive- go back through and edit all of your inspiration items to make sure they relate to each other. I can’t tell you how many times brides focus on specific items and forget to tailor it back to the big picture. They fall in love with something on Pinterest and then the look spins away from their initial style. Your own personal style is more important than Pinterest. Your story and personal style should be the editing guide for the big picture. Don’t hesitate to cut something that truly isn’t you just because it looks cute.” – Laura of Ashton Events

“When working with my wedding design clients, we always start big picture and then start breaking down the design into specific components. For the big picture, you want to come up with words and feelings to help you capture the look and feel you are trying to create. Then, you can start translating that vision into reality, step by step. A well designed wedding will feel cohesive and coordinated; from the invites, to the fabrics and lighting, to the flowers selected, and even the food and beverage choices. Having a master plan is key.” – Cassie of Flaire Weddings & Events

That is some of the best advice I’ve heard- and I most certainly wish I had known all that while I was planning my wedding! The thing about the design of your wedding is that it’s what makes your wedding *your own*. The way that you infuse your personalities into your wedding is with design and decor, which also clearly includes details.

So friends, tell me- are you designing your wedding? Are you working with a planner or designer? I want to hear all about your wedding designing!!